Tuesday, January 29, 2008

My New Friend

So, a friend of mine called me over the weekend and said he had someone he wanted me to meet. His friend, Tony, saw my picture and really wanted to meet me and I thought "what the hell?". So, I went over and hung out with them for most of the weekend. Good times.

However, there are so many red flags going up in my head as to why I need to steer clear of this guy.

1. He's 36 years old and doesn't have a job. Yet, somehow he always has money.

2. He wears Diesel, Seven and Antik jeans - they are like $200 a pair. He spends a lot of time on looking good. He might be prettier than I am.

3. He's had botox and collagen done on his face.

4. He actually told me that he usually loses interest in a girl after he sleeps with her. He followed it up with "I usually only date really young girls and we don't have that much in common". Good lord. Flag Flag Flag.

5. No less than about 5 - 10 girls call his phone everytime I'm with him and he feels the need to show me the text messages AND, said that one girl in particular is actually stalking him and he made me answer the phone and tell her that I'm his girlfriend and that she should stop calling him.

He's everything that I used to like in a guy - he's into the club scene, he knows everyone in town, he's VIP all over the city, he's drama drama drama. I think I need to run fast. He's so immature, I can't believe he's 36.

On the up side, he's really fun, he's super cute and he seems to like me a lot. Or at least he's enjoying the chase right now. I'm definitely not one of those young easy chicks that will stalk him and I think he likes that. Thus, he keeps calling me and trying to get me to hangout with him.

I'm laughing right now as I'm about to type this, he wants us to move in together already. Yes, I just met him 3 days ago. He was floored when he found out that I live with my ex boyfriend - most guys have issues with that one though.

So, anyway, it's obvious what I need to do, but what am I actually going to do? I dunno.

32 Comments:

Blogger Fuel55 said...

Move on - you know this is trouble ...

January 29, 2008

 
Blogger 4dbirds said...

What fuel said. Take this co-dependant part of you away from the temptation to change him. He won't and you can't make him.

January 29, 2008

 
Blogger Jay said...

What a tool.

Seriously. This guy is a loser.

January 29, 2008

 
Blogger The Grind said...

On the bright side, he's being honest. On the other he's actually telling you that's he's a complete dog/player.

January 29, 2008

 
Blogger wetleg said...

I think most women reach a point in their life where they automatically say no to a guy like this and do it almost immediately.

From reading your blog, which I really enjoy btw, I don't think you're there yet. You will probably start dating this guy and things will probably end badly.

Use your initial judgement.

January 29, 2008

 
Blogger Astin said...

Meh. You know he's not worth anything but a good time. So if you're just looking for one, go for it. Just don't expect it to last or be a storybook romance. Go in with your eyes open and have fun... no hard feelings when one of you is done.

That, or stay away. He's vain, cocky, and immature. Sounds like just about zero substance. Botox and collagen? Please.

January 29, 2008

 
Blogger pokerpeaker said...

Carmen, please. You're smart and attractive. Really? Match.com would be a lot better than this guy.

January 29, 2008

 
Blogger Mondogarage said...

You cannot be serious. Tell this asshat to "talk to the hand". In fact, he should be thinking of using his hand for other things.

Peaker's right. Even mismatch.com would probably be better than this guy. Life is already -EV enough, and there's probably at least 1,000 decently mature and decently good looking single males out your way.

GL!

January 29, 2008

 
Blogger Drizztdj said...

Balla that WON'T grow up.

Not worth the time Carmen, I'd move on.

January 29, 2008

 
Blogger The Diva's Thoughts said...

Girl....RUN and FAST!!!

January 29, 2008

 
Blogger Karen said...

Why does he seem like half of the guys I meet. Seriously. Run away. Fast. LOL.

January 29, 2008

 
Blogger Michael said...

Of course, he could be a Democrat, which would pretty much cancel out all the other little ... foibles. I mean, he would treat you badly but vote right, so, really, where is the downside?

PS--On asecond thought, maybe give this one a pass, a wide pass.

January 29, 2008

 
Blogger Betty said...

RUN! Quick, like a bunny!

January 29, 2008

 
Blogger Rich S.O.B. said...

Carmen,

I'm not sure who is a bigger dick, the date, or the guy who put you in touch with his "friend". For the life of me, I don't understand how these guys survive, I could never pull those stunts off.

Listen to your long time fans; tell this guy to fuck off, and do not , under any circumstances, spend a nano-second wondering if it was the right thing to do.

Welcome back hot stuff!

January 29, 2008

 
Blogger Hammer Player a.k.a Hoyazo said...

Sounds like you're gonna do it anyways. Am I right?

Which I don't think is bad necessarily as long as you go into it with eyes wide open.

January 29, 2008

 
Blogger Joaquin "The Rooster" Ochoa said...

No less than about 5 - 10 girls call his phone everytime I'm with him and he feels the need to show me the text messages AND, said that one girl in particular is actually stalking him and he made me answer the phone and tell her that I'm his girlfriend and that she should stop calling him.

You really should sleep with him. Serious, your friend has you meet him and all these red flags go up and next thing you know, your out on the town with them for the weekend...do the deed and get it over with.

It is like when I meet a material girl here in NYC. All kinds of red flags go up but I still hang with her because she's a piece of ass...I'm trying to close on that...why play cute and chase...serious, he is only chasing if you are giving him clues, but you aren't into that type of guy, right?

In any case, get it over with and sleep with the guy...he wears 200.00 dollar jeans and that is important and something that I judge people on...holla! I wear 30.00 dollar ones from old navy...guess I'm a loser. In any case, give us the full report of the guy you can't stand or he's the type of guy you can't stand...sorry...full details when you get the chance.

January 29, 2008

 
Blogger kipper said...

At least let him buy you a free dinner. Just have 'outs' when the dinner is over so you can get the hell out of dodge.

kipper

January 29, 2008

 
Blogger jusdealem said...

He doesn't have a job, but always has money. He's either a drug dealer or a male prostitute...he prolly has 70 yr old sugar mamas. LOL

He sounds worse than Drama Queen. I say run!!

January 29, 2008

 
Blogger RockDog said...

Sorry Carmen, not even I can give the green light on this one. It's short lived shallow fun at best...

January 29, 2008

 
Blogger Irongirl01 said...

My I suggest telling him that he is everything you used to be interested in but you have grown and moved on.

Dump Him. That kind of excitement, drama is not what someone with 1+ year of sobriety needs. It would be backsliding.

January 29, 2008

 
Blogger Love_elf said...

Sometimes it's difficult to give up things that we know are bad for us, Carm. BUT, you did it with both the drugs and the alcohol. If you can quit that, you can quit this guy. You already recognize that he is bad for you and may even take you down roads you have been down, unsuccessfully and painfully, before.

There is just too much to risk here for you. Do what you know is right. Resist the urge - you are a strong girl.

Oh - and give us girls some eye candy and take a picture of him for the blog.

January 30, 2008

 
Blogger Joaquin "The Rooster" Ochoa said...

Am I the only one that thinks that she should sleep with this guy. Dear God, people..she hung with him the whole weekend after she knew he was bad news...please...he continues to chase because you are putting yourself out there, Carm. I say you do it...do it!do it! do it! He wears fancy pants...wooop! he has money...wooop! He doesn't keep secrets because he shows you texts girls send him...woop. I think he's a keeper Carm.

January 30, 2008

 
Blogger CSuave said...

Run.... do not walk to the nearest exit.

January 30, 2008

 
Blogger SirFWALGMan said...

I am sorta with the Rooster but only if you want too.. No reason a chick can't have some fun for the hell of it. I know your not that kind of girl. Long term date material though -- not gonna happen. So if you wanna have some fun do it otherwise dump him.

January 30, 2008

 
Blogger Special K said...

I'm with the Rooster. Go ahead and do him. He's cute and that is apparently all that matters.

Seriously, I appreciate the explanation as to why I didn't get laid more growing up. Cute guys (and girl) can get what they want and can get away with anything.

But cute wears off quickly when the person behind that is a loser. I've got a great quality of life now. I wouldn't trade.

Signed,

Homely and Happy

January 30, 2008

 
Blogger The Ambiguous Blob said...

This guy reeks of everything I avoid in friends! Yick.

January 30, 2008

 
Blogger Francase said...

Dude sounds like a dealer. Run away from this.

January 30, 2008

 
Blogger katitude said...

Late to the party, but I'm with Rooster first then the rest...do him, THEN run :-)

January 30, 2008

 
Blogger Burn My Couch said...

He's prolly just a really good gambler. but either way, it won't matter for long as he's set his perfect 'out' as he's still saying hello to you.
Forget flag, he flat out told you how it's gonna go.
Dinner.
Sex.
Later.

If you can live with that then move forward, if you can't then why torture yourself into thinking it's going to be something more?

I could be wrong and maybe what he needs a girl that isn't 'young' and is more on the level of mature in nature (forget age, just mentality as I can only imagine the types he prolly 'dates').

Feel free to move forward but you seriously better protect yourself on this one. Remember what he told you, as he laid it out straight how he usually goes.

January 31, 2008

 
Blogger Heather said...

People like that don't change. Deep down they might want to, but really -- this guy is 36 and he's still lovin' the drama-filled life! Eww! I do agree on having some crazy sex with him, I mean why not? You can play that game, too. But, after that, PEACE OUT! lol. :) Let us know, and do post a pic if you can! hehe

January 31, 2008

 
Blogger Jennifer said...

Run! Run far away from this loser! You're miles ahead of this guy as far as I'm concerned. This guy just reeks of "Player"!!!

January 31, 2008

 
Blogger "The Rake" said...

This makes 32 comments.

I think people like to get involved in your dating life.


I wont.

Stay cool.

February 01, 2008

 

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